Finding out you’re pregnant can stir up a mix of emotions, but if you’re in an abusive relationship, those feelings may intensify with fear, confusion, and uncertainty. It can be a deeply isolating experience, but you don’t have to go through it alone.
The abuse you’re facing is not your fault. At Stillwater Life Services, your safety and the well-being of your pregnancy are our top priorities. If you’re in this situation, here’s what you need to know and what steps you can take to protect yourself.
Reach Out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline
If you’re in danger or unsure where to turn, contacting the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) is an essential first step. Advocates are available 24/7 to help you build a personal safety plan, connect with resources, or simply listen without judgment.
This confidential support can provide safety during a chaotic time, and may be a critical step in protecting you and your baby.
Pregnancy Does Not End Abuse
It’s a common hope that a pregnancy might soften an abusive partner or improve the relationship. Unfortunately, the opposite often occurs. Abuse may increase during pregnancy due to stress, jealousy, or a heightened desire for control.
Recognizing that pregnancy is unlikely to change your partner’s behavior can help you take steps toward safety and independence.
Recognize the Warning Signs
Abuse is not always physical. Emotional and psychological abuse, such as isolation, manipulation, financial control, and threats, can be just as damaging. If your partner prevents you from seeing friends or family, tracks your movements, or uses fear to control your choices, these are red flags of an abusive relationship.
These tactics can make it harder to see the situation clearly and may wear down your confidence over time. Naming the abuse and recognizing these patterns can be the first step toward breaking free and protecting your future.
Build a Support System
You don’t have to face this alone. Reach out to people you trust—family members, friends, or local organizations that offer emotional and practical support. Having someone on your side can help you see new options, whether creating a safety plan, finding housing, or accessing community resources.
A strong support network is key to your long-term safety, especially as you navigate your pregnancy and make decisions about what comes next.
We’re Here for You
At Stillwater Life Services, we provide free, confidential pregnancy support in a safe, nonjudgmental space. Whether you’re unsure of your next step or simply need someone to talk to, we’re here to listen and help.
You’ll find compassionate care, resources, and a team that’s ready to walk beside you through your pregnancy. Contact us today to explore your options and get the support you deserve.